“Why does my child throw toys…”
Throwing objects is part of normal development, between the ages of 18 months to 3 years of age. As children start discovering their fine and gross motor skills they start experimenting: “I got the skills, so let’s try throwing this! How about throwing in a different way? And more! This is fun!!!” They are not only having fun but also showing their excitement and sharing their emotions. At this age, they are not very vocal yet, so they use different ways to express their emotions and thoughts.
Other messages that children may be trying to communicate are the following: feeling of frustration, feeling upset, tired, scared, hunger or seeking attention. These emotions are all valid and require the adult’s attention; however, inappropriate throwing of toys can also lead to some negative consequences; someone can get hurt.
Here are a few tips on what you can do…
● Show and encourage them to throw appropriate things: balls, beanbags, etc
● Sustain consequences: If they are throwing things, explain what the consequences could be (break something, hurt someone), ask them to stop the behaviour or redirect them to an area (such as outside) or object (such as a soft toy or ball) that they can throw instead.
● Recognize their emotions: “you seem to be upset/frustrated. It is OK to show your emotions. I will help you.” If possible give them alternative ways to express their emotions (by using their words, coloring, running, etc)
These techniques won’t work right away, but with persistence and patience and by staying calm, you will be able to help them stop throwing things and learn what is acceptable.
What are some tips that you can share with us regarding throwing objects? We love to hear from you!
